Sounds like an oxymoron, right?  Personally and corporately, Christians are repulsed by the idea of constructive criticism.  We affirm that it is good, but in practice, we demonstrate that we think it unbiblical or sub-christian.  I came across this article this morning from Ken Sande of Peacemaker Ministries.  Can you imagine what it would look like if we practiced this kind of love in our lives and churches?

Lord, help me to have a heart and a spirit that is loving, charitable discerning and forgiving.  Amen.